My mother has gotten to the stage in life where she freely shares her opinions about everything, with anybody close enough to hear whatever is on her mind. In the past she might have recognised a likeminded friend in a crowd before whispering a discreet observation, one which would have caused many people’s eyebrows to buckle upwards in surprise, if heard. Nowadays, however, she shares her every thought with everybody she meets, having with no consideration for the ears her words might fall into. Sailing under the flag of old age, you see, she feels she is immune from any form of censure and revels in the freedom it affords her. For instance, Billy, our newsagent, must regularly listen my mother’s views on his beard; not to mention her sage advice. ‘Lose it, otherwise, you’ll look like something out of the Taliban,’ She gives him the same advice whenever she steps into the shop to hunt down a mass card, or a scratch card, or maybe even a cigar, depending on her needs. ‘And what would your mother have to say on the subject?’ she asks.
She usually continues her criticism of beards, at this point, by drawing a comparison between his beard and that of a local priest who has only recently sprouted a, ‘dark, hedge-like monstrosity.’ ‘I told him it ruins his good looks.’ She explains to Billy, ‘And it’s not as though he is a weak-chinned wonder who has something shameful that needs hiding beneath a blanket of hair.’ This outpouring of beard aversion is especially interesting to me as in all the thirty years I cultivated one, she never once seemed to notice the thing. Only now, since its disappearance, has she become such an open critic of facial hair.
A few years ago, such talk was limited to the breakfast table, where I got to listen to her thoughts on modern fashion trends over brown bread and marmalade, but lately she is taking her opinions to the streets and freely airing them with anyone standing before her.
Where in the past, she has always been a political animal, she could be relied on to save her most savage comments for Trump, or Boris Johnson, Isis, or Putin, these days any conversational filters she may once have had have been cast aside, and her field of criticism has expanded greatly. However, I must say that she saves her best work for the medical profession. The young doctor who refused to give her antibiotics on demand, either has asbestos for ears, or his ears are as misshapen as a retired rugby international’s due to the over-heating caused by been talked about behind his back. Another doctor, who shouted across a crowded waiting room that, ‘I’m sorry to hear your bad news,’ comes in a close second on her doctors’ verbal hit-list, but as for the doctor who sent her to A&E, to, ‘Improve her ‘Quality of life…’ Or the one who denied her a wheelchair parking permit at 93 years old… In the past my mother would have been angry when faced with what she saw as unprofessionalism, but in her new, post-filter-world, she likes to share her thoughts on the subject with any medic unfortunate enough to be sitting in front of her for over thirty seconds.
While an all-out-war with the medical profession may be justified, my mother now seems intent to tell the truth at all times, on all subjects, when in the past she might have played dumb. For instance, at the recent viewing of a neighbour, my mother pushed her way through mourners to the grieving sons, ignored the coffin, and told the eldest son that she expected him to turn up for her wake, which can’t be far away now. As shock therapy goes, it worked a treat. The red-faced stammering, chief mourner could do nothing but watch, slack-jawed, as my mother dodged her way around the milling crowd and made a fast getaway.
At another viewing, my mother enjoyed a reunion with people we had not met in an age as we waited outside to pay our respects to a ninety-year-old teacher who worked with my father for years. When my mother eventually met Mary’s brother and sister, people she had never met before, she regaled them, as she stood beside the coffin, with stories of the deceased. The retired teacher had been a non-drinker all her life. As a drinker herself, this concept was foreign territory as far as my mother was concerned. However, with Mary’s corpse practically nudging her in the back, playing the role of silent witness, my mother entertained the family with a story which the deceased had chosen not to share with her family in the intervening 45 years. Presumably, she had her reasons. Soon however, her family discovered that Mary had once accompanied my mother to a pub quiz, helped her raise funds for a good cause, and promptly sat down at the piano to provide music for the singsong which followed. However, the singalong began after hours, which was illegal. My mother’s stamina gave out at about one in the morning, so she left Mary at the keys of the piano and headed home. This is why my mother did not have her name taken by a Garda who raided the pub minutes after she had left the premises. Mary was less fortunate; and her name went into his little black book. Mary’s brother, looking almost as old as his sister, became intrigued and began an interrogation of my mother beside the coffin, causing a traffic jam among the mourners in Ma’s wake. With no hard shoulder to step into, nobody was getting past the coffin until my mother told her story. It was a triumphant woman who stepped into the night a few minutes later saying, ‘Imagine, she never told them.’ She simply could not understand how Mary had never told the story against herself. It was a good one after all, and a good story should always be shared with those around you. As should any thought which enters your head, it seems. After a lifetime of being discreet, my mother appears to have concluded that sharing your thoughts is always better than being miserly with them. And, as she is always right, what harm can come of it? Thank God she doesn’t use social media to share her thoughts with the rest of the world.
A friend of my mother’s rang the land line the other day. Nothing strange in that you might think, so long as you remember what a land line is. But that was not the strangest thing about the incident, the use of the old land line, it was the old-world charm of the conversation that got me thinking.
“Clarken’s,” I said, on answering the call. A controversial enough opening conversational gambit these days; identifying yourself on the telephone. People regularly become exasperated with me for my habit of saying, ‘Jim here,’ when I answer my mobile. It’s as though they have not got the imagination to think that anybody except me might answer the call. They phoned me, so they expect me, and only me, to hit the accept button.
“It’s Harriot here,” came the voice on the other end of the line. “Tell your mother, Poirot is on the television.”
Harriot is not a person to waste your time, so after asking after all of us, she gave us a blessing. Then said, “Over and out,” and she hung up. This is how she has ended her calls, with the words “Over and out,” for over forty years.
Her sign-off got me thinking and my mind took the path of least resistance and wound up in a ‘Sunday Miscellany,’ reflective mode. This program has been an acoustic companion to my Sunday first cup of coffee for the last couple of years and has been broadcasting into my mother’s sitting room for over years before that. During the program writers search through their lives looking for anything that might give them meaning, and usually come up empty-handed. I’m talking nostalgia mingled with strained metaphors, all served up in a congealed gravy of gothic prose. There is sometimes a hint of philosophical inquiry too, an intellectual treasure hunt, where authors seek out deeps in shallow waters.
Don’t worry, I have decided to avoid all philosophical thoughts in this blog. This piece is about phones, it does not ponder platonic relationships, or Freudian slips which might accidentally lead us into the deep abyss of the mind. This shall be a shallow blog, which will not come as a surprise to anyone who knows me well.
All my research for this piece was done over the breakfast table with my ninety-three-year-old mother. Have I already strayed into Freudian territory? Anyway, when pressed, she told me that Egan’s (she once being an Egan) first telephone number was, Portlaoise 24. She also added, and this has no relevance to what we are talking about, that the lower square in Portlaoise was called Buttermilk Square. Pressing her further on phones in the nineteen thirties and forties, she remembered phoning a local lady one day, who answered by saying,
“This is Mrs. B… on her own phone, in her own home.”
The pride encapsulated in the greeting; the sense of achievement is enough to send me out looking for a gothic turn of phrase. This one possession had made her prouder than any modern woman driving into a carpark, in a SUV so large that it can be seen from outer space. However, the results of my research have not yet been exhausted, so I will reluctantly leave car park reflections for another day.
My mother also recalled another woman, who had just had her phone installed.
“I did not know you had a phone,” my mother told the woman when she discovered this.
“Sure, we’re all gentry now, Mary,” she replied.
It shows the status attached to having a phone back then. The same can be said nowadays, as people carry their phones in their hands so that those-in-the-know will recognise the latest Apple release, or the camera signature of the current flagship Samsung. But these people tend to be teens, and teens, if we are honest with ourselves, have little or no status in society. Anyway, no matter how you look at it, there is no comparison between then and now when it comes to the status a phone afforded you. For instance, when my mother first installed her phone, she had to decide between getting one or renting a tv instead. And this could only be done after the upright washing machine had been paid off. A phone, in other words, said you had arrived.
I remember that one of the first responsibilities given to us as children was to answer the phone. Training was required. Firstly, you picked up the hand piece, no mean feat as, for a child, the Bakelite monstrosity was heavy. Then, breathless and excited, you said ‘Clarken’s,’ followed by the telephone number. This was when things could get strange. For instance, we shared the telephone number with Tullamore railway station. The prefix was different, but the number was the same. Anyone a couple of miles away from the station could still be in our area code and not know it. This was why, if they dialled the local number, they got through to us. No matter how carefully you explained that they had to make a trunk call by adding a different area code, people still complained and felt that you should know the train timetables for Tullamore railway station anyway. They seldom hesitated from sharing their frustrations with me as a kid. One thing it did teach me was that an abusive caller can easily be silenced by you hanging up. It’s amazing how puzzling this simple action is to an abuser. I’ve even had people phone me up to complain that I had hung up on them. And they then expected me to listen to them whine about my behaviour! There have even been a few people who admitted that they were threatening me on the phone. They seemed unaware, that like certain Star Wars characters, the ‘force was with me.’ Bullies and crank-callers always forget that you have the power to hang up on them whenever you want.
When I grew up with a dial on our phone, my mother explained that their early phones were crank operated. Turn the handle a few times and an operator would answer, find your number and put the call through for you, phoning you back when they had contacted the number you wanted. All very well in theory, but if the post mistress did not feel like putting through your call, things could get tricky. As for an inquisitive operator, he could listen in to full conversations. Organizing an extramarital affair on the telephone back then would definitely burst the bubble of secrecy quicker than a nail would destroy a bicycle tyre. You also had to be very careful how you went about your business with your lawyer, bank manager, or doctor. Who needs their name and the words ‘communicable disease,’ to spread through their town as quickly as milk sours if left on a heater overnight? So, professionals tried not to sound too panicked when arranging an urgent meeting with clients and most individuals were wise enough to take precautions to confuse an inquisitive operator by using prearranged codes. There were couples who married marginally too late to conceal the early consummation of their relationships. Having a baby before it was expected by the town’s people often caused tongues to wag back then. If the newlyweds had moved away after getting married there were ways of saving the grandparents blushes. Thus, there were often excited calls by proud fathers telling the grandparents that their parcel had arrived. Telling them what they allegedly received informed the grandparents what colour wool to buy for the baby-grow. A few months later another phone call was made, this time proudly announcing the new arrival, already, no doubt bursting from its first baby-grow. If you find this difficult to credit, then you might want to consider what happened when my sister was born in Dublin. My father was in Portlaoise when the call arrived from the hospital, and he immediately headed out to spread the good news. However, by the time he found my grandfather to inform him, about fifteen minutes later, my grandfather was already celebrating. Seemingly, the operator who put the call through to my father had listened in. No sooner had my father hung up, than the telephonist left his desk, dashed next door and told my grandfather about my sister’s birth; all the details, down to her weight on delivery. This might seem like a huge breach of trust to young adults reading this. But pause before condemning everyone back then. Instead, consider the phone you are caressing in your hands as though it were a substitute lover. Look at it and remember that with every keystroke you make, it is betraying you, passing on your most intimate details. It knows what underwear you bought online, how you have put on a couple of inches around your waist, which hotel you’ve booked into for next weekend, and all the words you’ve looked up the meaning for in the last year. What’s more, it has passed that information on to its corporate and governmental friends, all over the globe. The Americans and Chinese know your dirtiest secrets and will use them against you given half a chance. And you signed up to this! You see, convenience comes at a cost, sometimes visible, sometimes not. And in the way you accept the spying terms and conditions to have a smart phone in your hand, we accepted eve-droppers on the line. Not that everything we said was stored for eternity in the clouds.
Despite the drawbacks of the smartphone, I would shudder to suggest that we go back to a time when we still had to turn a handle and wait for an operator to put a call through for us. Tell the people of Lahinch and Birr to give up their smart phones when many still remember winding up a crank to make a call at a time, when less than forty miles away, I was making computer games for Atari in Limerick. I also remember wandering the streets of that city at night with pockets full of change, looking for a working pay phone so that I could freeze in a smelly phone box and make a call that had to be made.
I may complain, but I like smart phones. They are fantastic machines and brilliantly convenient. However, I am an analogue device, not an automated machine, so when I answer a call, I’m still inclined to say, ‘Jim here.’ Over and Out.
My mother went into hospital last week with a chest infection. Her last instruction, before being admitted, was for me to place a bet on a horse that ultimately came in 3rd. I can’t blame our fish and tips man for that. It would be petty because he has given us too many winners to complain about a favorite coming in 3rd. Following orders from she who must be obeyed, meant snailing around the Electric Picnic traffic which clogged every road in Portlaoise as I headed bookie-wards. In stalled traffic I had time to notice ripe blackberries in almost every hedgerow and got to thinking.
My initiation into the art of BlackBerry picking featured both my mother and my grandmother; there was also pony racing taking place in the background. I think the whole escapade may have been my grandmother’s idea, it was certainly she who pointed out the fruit laden hedges as we made our way through the turnstiles into the grounds for the event. After doing her duty, by pointing out the bushes, she immediately deserted us for the bookie stands, leaving my siblings and I with no helpful hints on how to grab the fruit without being stung by nettles, impaled on briers, or attacked by man-eating maggots. The maggots seem monstrously huge to this clear sighted ten-year-old.
So, while my mother and my grandmother fluttered, while ponies ran in circles and sweated, and as the smell of fresh manure grew stronger by the minute, I slowly mastered the art of the pull-and-turn to get fruit from the bushes. Too strong and you squish the berries to death, too loose and you drop them.
Soon my fingers were swollen from nettle stings, thorns drew blood from the back of my hand and my neck was sunburned, because sixties mothers did not use sunblock. A warm wind blew around me, race commentaries cut through the cheering crowd and my mouth came alive to the deep, dark taste of warm blackberries.
The truth is that the blackberries scared me more than a little. Maybe it was the maggots I met along the way. These seemed to stick their heads out and squirm in the light of day, like Groundhogs being pulled out of hibernation to give their spring weather forecast. Of course, that’s presupposing I was looking at their heads. I’m not sure that they were not mooning at me, or perhaps they shared a common gene with an ostrich and, not having sand, stuck their heads into the fruit in an attempt to drown themselves, in its juices.
Anyone who has visited my YouTube channel will know that I appear to have an unhealthy obsession with the BlackBerry and even the humble apple at this time of year. If I were being cheeky, I would call what I am doing, ‘mindfulness.’ Though, in truth, for that to be the case, the mind should be empty, not swamped by blackberries. It is a very strange experience, but every year after my fruit picking ordeal, I suffer a sort of post-traumatic stress syndrome. It is as though I have survived an ordeal that may have permanently scarred me. For weeks afterwards, every time I close my eyes, my mind’s eye, my neurological cortex, projects images of wall upon wall of blackberries. Every shape and hue is represented; sometimes moving, sometimes not, always sitting there, behind my eyes, teasingly beyond reach. OK, mindfulness, maybe not. More as though an abundance hypnosis session has gone into nightmare mode.
You know the feeling, the voice in your ear buds may be telling you to concentrate on abundance, there may be soft music playing in the background, or the sound of gentle rainfall, but as the voice encourages you to walk along a stream, somehow your mind strays to images of your own. At this time of the year, as my post-traumatic stress is triggered by bushes weighed down by blackberries, I find my mind strays from the path of suggested images, to imaginings of golden apple syrup or ditches laden with blackberries. And the soundscape in my head changes too, from one of computer-generated pan pipes, to one of hissing winds, of humming wasps, the chirping of nearby birds and lowing of distant cows. As abundance goes, you could do worse, especially as other people’s cliche ideas about money, cars, houses and body tattoos are not always for you.
Driving home, it occurred to me that someday soon I may just be discovered by passing strangers, standing up to my ankles in nettles, arms outstretched, reaching as far as I can for the juiciest berry in the bush. And though they will not see it, I will be hearing ponies hooves race over hard ground, a tannoy screeching in the distance and a huge crowd cheering home a winner. Hopely, they will witness an enormous blackberry fall safely into my hand. Like a fisherman, the berry picker’s life is a solitary one, which is why he will always have tales of the one that got away or was just out of reach; stories that only other pickers would voluntarily listen to, or understand. Oh dear, it seems that I am actively bringing on another bout of post-traumatic stress syndrome, and I haven’t even picked a berry yet. I still remember my grandmother chiding us when she returned with her days winnings, for failing to bring a bag with us when we went picking the berries. We were too full, too tired, too warm, and too dirty to argue. The next time my grandmother stopped at a hedge to teach us a life lesson, it was mushrooms we picked. This time she had the foresight to brine a bag, a Harrods bag if I remember correctly.
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Picking even a few blackberries can be worthwhile.
Friday mornings, I go shopping with my mother, whether this is an ordeal or a pleasure I have never quite decided. The ordeal begins, oops. Anyway, before the shopping can begin, the wheelchair parking badge must be removed from my mother’s car and displayed in mine. This badge warrants a blog of its own, let’s just say that at 93 years of age my mother has finally been granted a wheelchair parking permit. The downside to this is that, although there may be many car parking spaces available in the car park, I must take on Friday’s inevitably chaotic traffic and do a drive by of the wheelchair parking spaces close to the supermarket’s entrance. Only after we are certain that they are full, and that nobody is leaving any time soon, am I allowed to park elsewhere.
We don’t shop in one of the multiples, but the store is relatively large, well-stocked, and the staff are pleasant. One advantage of the store is that there are more than a few grey-haired clients who are all as regular as my mother in visiting it on a Friday. This means that it can take some time to get around the supermarket, no matter how small our shop. There are many hellos to be made, inquiries about hips and cataracts to be satisfied and news of funerals missed and discussions about mass cards to be sent. Some people may call this gossip, however, for me, gossip always entails the invention of salacious facts, so I just think of this as a community news event. After topping-up on the news front, we head to the farmers’ market, which is only about 500 yards away, though this involves a drive past another couple of occupied, wheelchair parking spaces. The market is hidden as far away from the public as the County Council could make it, without taking steps to ban it outright. And it varies in size, depending on the season and the weather, but you can always rely on at least seven regular stallholders being in attendance.
The irregulars may very well sell the best homemade chocolates around, but they tend to be fair weather hawkers. There are experienced knick-knack sellers who occasionally turn up, but the County Council site does not offer the exposure they need, the footfall required, to make a profit, so they quickly depart to busier pastures. This footfall issue is a pity, because local would-be entrepreneurs open and close-up-shop on a regular basis, never getting a real chance to properly test their stall’s full potential. Meanwhile, some people do surprisingly well. All last summer we had an exotic regular, a poet selling his wares, three books of his own poems, but he disappeared for the winter, presumably there is only so much suffering a poet should have to undergo for his art.
Of the regular stalls, three offer homemade baking, jams, honey, and eggs. There is a cheese stall too, where many of the cheeses are made by the stall’s owner. There are also two vegetable stalls, one primarily selling homegrown vegetables, direct from the stall owner’s land. But for the purposes of this blog today, I’m going to concentrate on the fish van.
Jason is known far-and-wide (according to himself,) as the Fish & Tip man. Though, in reality, he should be known as the Fish & Banter Man because, as well as trucking in fresh fish from Wexford every Friday, he always has an endless supply of chat, cooking advice, and jokes at the ready for customers. For many, he is the market’s main attraction. And many of those would never be caught dead in a betting shop. Jason, you see, is a passionate horseman, and like all passionate people, he loves to spread the news.
His stall is our first stop every week. We may need bread, or jam, or honey, but not until we have secured our bet for the day. Even if there is a queue ahead of us, we get in line. My mother invariably rumbles through her bag to find her notebook well before we reach the counter. There may be the name of a book, here or there among its tiny pages, perhaps even a telephone number, but a quick flick through it would make you think it is the form page from a newspaper. There are times noted, venues recorded, and the most exotic of equine names carefully written down in my mother’s elegant hand. The odds are never noted, starting prices only come into play later. Many of these horses proved to be also rans, but the winning side of the ledger favors my mother. Ma has pen in hand and notebook at the ready by the time the man ahead of us has bought a lobster, filled a bag full of prawns and has decided between the salmon and the hake. Then it is our turn.
“I have one for you today,” Jason normally says to my mother, before turning to me and asking what fish we want. Once I have given him my order and he is fulfilling it, he talks to my mother, takes out his phone, calls out the name of a racecourse, the race time, and the horse’s name.
The people around us normally are intrigued by the events unfolding before them. Some see my mother and smile, thinking poor, wee, lost, old woman. Some frown, wondering what they’re missing out on. An old friend, who was behind my mother last week, asked her to place a tenner each way on the tip of the day. Sometimes, you can even see a person’s lips move as they try to remember the name of the horse, intending, no doubt, to check it out later.
The funny thing is that my mother is still on the winning side of the Ledger this year. But the horse from the week before last was not even placed. This may be the reason why Jason felt a little bit shy about offering my mother a tip on Friday morning. However, he was determined to do well by her, and asked her to text him later, he most certainly would have a winner today. I entered his telephone number into my mother’s phone, texted him using her name, asking him for her tip for the week. The horse won. It makes up for the winner we missed out on, on Good Friday. The tip was good, you understand, but the bookie was closed. Still, the fish was delicious.
Jason texted us the good news last Friday, confirming the win only minutes after the race was run. Now, that is some service. And the winnings more that covered the price of the hake, the monkfish and even the bag of crabmeat we bought.
According to my sisters, no Gemini should ever contemplate giving birth to a Pisces. Thankfully my mother ignored this advice, in the way she ignores most advice, not that her choices (many of which brought permanent frowns to the faces of the tut-tutting classes,) seem to have done her any real harm. As a result of such independent thinking, she failed to consult an astrologer before being so feckless as to conceive me. I am also fairly certain that she failed to consume folic acid as part of the baby having procedure. Folic acid was not in fashion back then. The harvesting of amniotic fluids would also have seemed barbarous science fiction to her generation, scans unnecessary and as to discovering the sex of the child before it was born, that would only have ruined the surprise. Remember, those were the times when naming a child before it was born was considered tempting fate.
So, she had a Pisces, poor thing, at least according to my sisters. Whether this is true sympathy for my mother, or some sort of accusation levelled against me, I cannot say. Suffice it to say, that according to them, it completely explains my mother’s relationship with me. What this is, is impossible to say, but according to my astrology hooked sisters, our relationship is fraught with confusion and misunderstanding. This may be so, but if it is, I explain it to myself as a generational gap, or personality differences. My sisters think otherwise. They tell me that we are merely actors in some Greek play; comedy, or tragedy they never say. Mostly, I ignore such talk, but sometimes I have cause to pause and wonder.
For instance, when my mother asked me to jump from an aeroplane, just what had she in mind? She had never, herself, expressed any desire to leap from a plane at five thousand feet and allow gravity do its worst. What was this about? Had her stars aligned her against me? Was the moon holding water? Was Neptune up to no good? Perhaps Mars was even redder than usual. Her request baffled me on so many levels.
My male role model, my father, was afraid of heights, enclosed spaces, being buried alive, and gardening (least it ruin his golf swing.) This may make him sound like a wuss, but he was no wuss, so long as his feet were firmly on low lying ground, and nobody was nailing him into a coffin while there was breath still left in his body.
However, he was generous with his neurosis, sharing them with anyone who would listen. Maybe because of this, I fancied that I too suffered from a fear of heights. Whatever the reason, when my mother went on a charity drive and asked me to jump from an aeroplane, for whatever cause she was supporting, I said yes. My theory being that, by facing my fears they would retreat to the side-lines and therefore be less of a nuisance.
It is all very well to sit on a barstool and indulge such a theory, but to turn up on a cold Spring morning as sheep are being herded from the runway tests one’s resolve. Seeing them ushered into a holding pen might have given me pause for thought but looking at the small aeroplane close to them was reassuring. Dowdy and humble sure, but it seemed airworthy. Just as this thought crossed my mind, a minibus pulled up beside it. Men got busy, jump leads were produced, an electrical umbilical cord was attached to the plane and my palms began to sweat, despite the cold. Still, I reasoned once the engine was started and up to speed… I shivered, gave up on reason and continued to the clubhouse. It is, after all, emotions, not reason, that drive people to greatness or their doom. My emotional investment was twofold, money had been raised for a good cause, backing down would have meant no money. There were also friends who had jumped before me. There would have been no end to the slagging if I turned and ran away now. I am sad to say I was driven by shame.
I would like to say that the reason I was feeling fragile as fifteen first-time jumpers huddled together in a cold shed, was the early hour, however that is not true. My confidence had been lowered by what I had seen outside. Remember, these were solo jumps. We were not going to be conjoined with an instructor. We were going to have to find our own way down, though gravity would lend a helping hand, as our instructor pointed out when he stood before us and said,
“This is an adventure sport; people die doing it. Anybody who wants to leave, do so now.”
Heads turned; frightened eyes scanned the room for people brave enough to leave. But we were all cowards, more willing to jump from a small aircraft, than to look tiny in our friends’ eyes.
We then had a twenty-minute lecture about the joys of being splattered on tarmac, of having our legs broken, what to do if our parachute failed to open, and how to open our emergency shoots, as we dropped like a stone, when our main chutes failed. Fifteen sets of ears listened, and some brains may have absorbed the information. However, having teaching experience, I would imagine that at least five of those present heard nothing above the, ‘What-the-hell-am-I-doing-here,’ voices screaming in their heads.
You may wonder why I was still willing to go through with the jump, aside from the shame of dropping out. The answer is that everyone I knew who parachuted from a plane had survived uninjured. In other words, the technology was proven. I also remembered an evening spent with a one-armed golfer as he reminisced about being in a parachute regiment during the second world war. His scariest jump, he told me, was from a balloon basket. It was a straight fall, as opposed to jumping from a plane at one hundred miles an hour. Which means that you are moving one hundred miles an hour sideways as gravity takes hold of you and begins to pull you down to earth. The balloon jump was even scarier, he believed, than a night-time leap into the darkness. Based on his opinions, I would be pumping less adrenaline than if I were jumping from a basket.
Eventually, after learning how not to break a leg when landing, how not to castrate myself with the parachute harness – by tightening the straps correctly – the instructor pulled me aside for the hand inspection. Hand might be over stating things, hook would be more accurate. He asked me to raise my hands to see if the hook was high enough to catch one of the toggles which steer the parachute. We agreed that the hook was up to the job, it was all systems go.
Lots were drawn, soon myself and the others of the long straw brigade were watching the first batch of jumpers huddle together in the aircraft. You could argue that it is better to get the ordeal over with quickly but be assured none of us lotto winners wanted to exchange places with any of the sardine-like creatures now squeezed into the plane. My heart practically bled for the jumper who would be first out of the aircraft, first to count to three, to wait for the chute to open and slow their descent.
Finally, the aircraft was fully loaded with scared, novice jumpers. Our instructor issued last minute orders and was about to join his students when confusion arose in the ranks. People spilled from the plane and a protesting; would-be parachutist crawled from the bowels of the aircraft. White-faced, he removed his helmet and handed it to the instructor, who immediately turned and gave it to me. Likewise, I was handed the main chute, along with the emergency one and, with no time to think, slipped into the harness and tightened up the straps.
There was no time to consider whether Saturn had gone retrograde in my chart, or if the stars had decided that, like a Final Destination victim, it was my time to die horribly for cheating Death some time before. There were quite a few moments to choose from. Whatever the reason, it was time to jump. Worst of all, using the ‘last-in-first-out’ rule, it seemed as though there was a big number one written on my back, I was going to be the first person out of the plane.
The aircraft would, no doubt, have been comfortable enough if it had passenger seats, or a door. Aside from the pilot, nobody got a seat, a lesson Ryan Air could learn from. As if confirmation were needed about the number on my back, I found myself sitting in the doorframe, half-in-half-out of the aircraft, the instructor, a lead weight on my feet keeping me from tumbling from the plane at least until we were airborne.
There were a minimum number of pre-flight checks where the passengers were concerned. There were no airhostesses prattling unintelligibly about storing your possessions in the overhead lockers. All I heard was the shout from the instructor, “Keep your feet off those pedals.” That’s when I saw the terrified jumper sitting beside the pilot. There is no way of knowing what size his feet were but, clad in walking boots, they seemed enormous and perilously close to the pedals before him.
The engine roared into life. The plane rolled forward and gathered speed. I watched sheep droppings fly into the air as the plane raced towards a hedge at the end of the field. My imagination was dwelling on fireballs as my mind flew into nightmare mode. All I could think of, as my shoulder dug into the doorframe, were size 12 boots pawing at the controls, keeping us on the ground just a second too long. Oddly enough, I now thought that it would be safer to jump from the plane at five thousand feet, than to stay on board for the landing.
There are things no novice jumper is ever prepared for as they take that leap of faith. The silence for one. Then the view. When you look down everything is flat. Two dimensional. Disorienting. You feel lost. You find yourself asking, where did that big X you were told to aim for get to? Then you find it. The chances of you landing near it are slim, but there is a feeling of triumph at having found it. There is no doubt in your mind that you won’t land in the same field as the big white letter which marks the spot. The odds are in your favour. It is a big field after all, but with the wind at your back…
Then you spot the twenty-thousand-volt power lines beneath you. It is time to panic. You frantically pull a toggle and, instead of turning in a different direction, you become a human spinning top. So, you ease off on the toggle and drift away from the cables only to find yourself about to straddle a barbed wire fence.
Now, if a harness can damage you digging into your crotch, what can a barbed wire fence do to you? It is far tougher than nylon after all and sharper too. This is a rough translation of the OMG thoughts which ran through my head seconds after my twenty-thousand-volt power line incident. Unasked for scenes flashed behind my eyes.
It seemed that an accident and emergency ward featured in my imminent future. Young nurses swarmed into my imagination, gathered around my trolley, and eyed up the damage. They were wide-eyed, their heads craning forward to better inspect my injuries; their eyes both horrified and fascinated in equal measure. I could have spent all day in my imagination, watching them watching me, getting high on hospital smells, but thankfully my parachute training kicked in.
By now I was an old hand with the toggles. Not that I understood them, but they gave me an illusion of control. I pulled and prayed, missed the fence by a few yards as I landed safely. Who cared that this was the wrong field? I was finally down, my legs appeared to work, even if they were weak. It was time to stand up, look around, assess where I was and make my way back to the adjoining field. Somewhere in the back of my mind the there was only one question that needed answering, were the pubs open yet?
I arrived home a little later than expected, and right on the legal drink/driving limit – they were much more generous back then. This is ok, Pisces are known to like their drink. And as for my Gemini mother, she was her usual smiling self as she greeted me at the doorway before waving goodbye and heading into the night. I was home safely, she had places to be, the world was back to normal.
It was only later that my sisters told me that my mother had rung them, wondering where I had gotten to. The sun had gone down, after all, and only the foolhardiest would parachute in the dark. It was reassuring to learn, that no matter how the stars aligned, my mother did wonder at the folly of throwing her Pisces son from a plane.
I gleaned one lesson from this ordeal. The next time somebody asks me to jump, I will ask ‘how high?’ before agreeing. As for my phobias. I still have a problem with heights. But that’s probably just vertigo.
This is the season of Ba-humbuginess, of misanthropes everywhere to, if not stand together, at least unite against the group hysteria which forces fake joy onto a rather uncaring world. Thank you, Mr Dickens, for giving us Scrooge, the perfect misanthrope. If only you had left him alone, allowed him wallow in his pain, but no, you had to go and change him into a broken figure, sacrificed on the altar of sentimental intentions. By the end of the book, you have turned the season weird, adding too much tinsel, and a saccharine sweetness, which is too poisonous for many of us to swallow. For this part of the blog, I shall stand at Scrooge’s side and empathise with his pain. This is Christmas past. I am your ghostly guide.
Think of the scariest things you can imagine; a Marmite sandwich, a latte made on soya milk, being stuck on a crumbling cliff edge five-hundred feet up, or worse still, being trapped in an elevator with an Instagram celebrity. Life is terrifying, at winter, scarier yet. The long, dark frozen nights mess with our heads in a way summer never does. Aside from insect bites and sunburn, there are very few threats during the hottest days of the year, other than an unwashed salad, devoured in some foreign land. But in winter; insects hibernate – and are now, no doubt, dreaming of sweet tasting, human blood to be lapped up in the springtime. Salad-tummy is a nightmare belonging to hotter times. Looked at logically, therefore, winter should be a time of ease, of hot chocolates and mulled wines. Except, humans have a way of distrusting the cosiest of here-and-nows. Thus Christmas was born.
This season, you might think, was invented by a show-off who used the biggest lightshow in town to assert dominance, or by an advertising executive with shares in a toy company.
Not so, Christmas started life as the old Roman festival of Saturnalia, invented for a different deity than the one celebrated now. The Romans marked the darkest time of year by giving gifts, cheap, fun, jokey, token presents. This was a seriously fun festival, the gifts reflected this being crude, rude and in keeping with a season of drinking, gambling and debauchery. For one day of the year, slave owners served at the table of their slaves. I cannot think of a modern equivalent, or imagine that Donald Trump dons a waiter’s apron on Christmas day and doles out hundreds of burgers and Cokes to his staff, as they play tricks on him.
There were also religious sacrifices made in Roman times, but not human. You would have to hang out with the Druids and Celts for that. There is ample evidence of this. Simply ask an archaeologist about our bog bodies and our habit of sacrificing our kings on an annual basis, if you need confirmation. Judging by their choice of sacrifices, you can tell that women dominated religion in Ireland at the time and were our first priests, wielders of sharp blades, and good with a restraining knot. As the inventors of agriculture and religion they certainly held a strong position in Irish society. One look at the Brehon laws proves just how enlightened we were in many ways. Though human sacrifice might seem to contradict this theory. But if a little light bloodshed is your thing, what better time to indulge it, than in the darkest days of winter? What an appropriate time to tie somebody to a stone altar and, using a sharp blade, a strong rope, or a blunt instrument, offer them up to a Sun god who might never return if not properly appeased.
At a time when there were no James Bond re-runs on tv, I’m sure these sacrifices would have drawn a large, local audience. Knowing that you were not this year’s chosen one would have been such a relief that you could relax and enjoy the religious experience. And there would have been no cover charge to witness such a Tarintino like bloodbath, one without any irony attached. The bonus, of course, was that the sacrifice would play to the Sun’s better-self, make him do a handbrake turn in the heavens, quickly returning in our direction, bringing light back into the world with him.
How did we get from that essential, deadly festival to what we have today, a sentimental, candyfloss occasion which is both emotionally and financially bankrupting? Where did we lose sight of the infant being celebrated? How did his message get so lost in translation? Does it really matter? He is innocent of any crimes committed in his name and powerless over those who usurped his message. Which is why we are left with a hollow, empty festival where the office Christmas party is about as much fun as root-canal without an anaesthetic, more torture than fun.
Cultural cross pollination at its best.
I can imagine a modern Scrooge, a penny-pinching, union hating, Brexit voter. As such, it is fair to assume he suffered as a child. An iron rod ruled his house, and a rugby ball would have featured prominently in his childhood, either because he was, or was not, allowed to play. This person suffers from PTS and I can imagine that one of the greatest triggers for this would be the bombardment of Christmas tv advertisements from November onwards. One hates to think of his childhood memories, to investigate his pain. Parents tend to be the source of our greatest neurosis. Listening to a four-year-old being interviewed about the non-existence of Santa recently, made me want to kill the parents. They may have prevented later pain and disappointment, but in doing so, they have killed the magic of childhood and turned their child into a target for bullying in the playground. Shame on you.
My own memories are vague, but aside from chimney fires, power outages, having to cook our turkey in my granny’s house and a sudden death in the family, the day was very much life as usual, only you could not go out to play with your friends, as they too were hostages to their families for the day. Overall, I was rather confused by the Santa business and it took a while to get the hang of letter writing, followed by a long wait. Then the day would finally arrive, and the present was never quite right-enough to send me into raptures and never quite wrong-enough to disappoint. My ideas were somehow very fixed in my head and got lost in translation in the letter to Santa. And then it happened, that final failure by the man in red. I wrote a letter to himself. Looking back now I can understand how he failed to make sense of my scrawl, but back then, as I posted the letter, I believed. Anybody who knew me as a child will tell you that I spent most of my time out of the house, with friends, playing seasonally adjusted games. This may account for how I slipped the letter into the post box without my parents having had a chance to proofread it first. Imagine their consternation when their son refused to tell them what he had asked for from the fat man. I cannot remember the probing itself. However, I have been told that the interrogations were fierce, but stopped short of torture. It was a close call, so high was the level of frustration caused. You see, I was certain that Santa knew, and it seemed bad form to share what he knew with my parents. You can imagine the result. I did not get the requested gun and holster. There was a lovely present under the tree, a present that, under any other circumstances, would have made me happy for months, but Santa had broken the faith. The seeds of doubt were sown. Christmas and disappointment became linked together in my mind and it would take me some time to decouple them. Since then, I’ve witnessed the same confusion repeatedly and listened to many adults whose hearts were broken under a Christmas tree, on the 25th of December, years ago.
I remember watching my niece, one year, discover a doll’s pram beside rather than under the tree. She was hardly four years old, and to see the excitement give way to confusion was a revelation. My theory that children are non-sentient were challenged when she said, “It’s not lilac.” She was correct. What can I say, it was blue. Blue is not lilac, ask a three-year-old if you doubt me. Parents! Oddly enough, like all of us, she quickly got over her disappointment. Soon, she loaded up her pram with dolls and took them out for a walk. I guess she was learning the lesson that dreams never quite match expectations. Just because life is one giant compromise does not mean that it cannot be fun. It’s a good lesson, even if it’s not supposed to be in Santa’s brief. The sad thing is that too many people never learned from their experiences and the ghosts-of-disappointments-past haunt them every year from October 31st to January the 6th. For them, this must be the scariest season of the year, the season of disappointment.
I think that the ghosts from the past can disappear themselves as we wander into Christmas present. A word of advice to the Scrooges of this world, low-cost airlines were invented specifically to save you from past traumas and those nagging doubts, that perhaps, you could enjoy the season if only… Do not listen to them, a beach in the Far East awaits.
For the rest of you, let’s examine Scrooge’s opposite number, the Christmas lover, the person who can never get enough of George Michael singing about last Christmas, or see ‘It’s A Wonderful Life,’ once too often. For these people Christmas is the focal point of the year. They may be few in number, just as there are very few proper Scrooges in the real world, but I do not dismiss them because of that. There are far more than you might imagine. Be warned, Mr Politician Man, their votes could decide a tight election.
This cohort may be marginally insane, their imaginations fuelled by sentimentality and adrenaline, their optics very much their own. They are the guardians of the season, Marvel Super- Christmas-heroes, bound to the sacred task of making Christmas happen in their household. It is as though they lived in a bygone age and their nearest and dearest’s life was at stake come the full moon at the Winter’s solstice. These people trudge through eleven months of the year, but in December…
For them, there can never be enough fake snow blowing across their lawns, robotic Santas scaling their roofs, elves imprisoned in plastic workshops, or coloured lights causing light pollution in their neighbourhood. In the way Elvis fans are attracted by white, glittering suites, these people become hysterical at the thought of heaped presents scattered under a tinsel covered tree. For them, there is no disappointment when the season has passed. Christmas lovers are like runners huddled and exhausted at the finishing line of the Dublin marathon discussing next year’s run, on the 26th December our heroes can already be heard thinking out loud about next year. January is next year’s starting line. The 25th of December may be a long time off for most people, but like a farmer, weary from the harvest, their minds are already tilling the soil, sowing the seeds of future festivities. This is why, they willingly sign up in the first weeks of the year, for next year’s Christmas catalogue. This is why, they start to pay off, one week at a time, for a turkey that has not yet been hatched. For these people, Christmas does not come as a surprise, catching them off guard, as it seems to so many people. They understand that they have 364 days to recover from this year’s case of indigestion, before facing into next year’s. And you can be sure that a box of indigestion tablets will be one of the products ordered from next year’s catalogue.
The proportion of real Scrooges, or manic Christmas lovers, in the population is low. The majority of us live somewhere between both camps. For us, Christmas is an ordeal to be gone through, less painful than a dentist visit, less rewarding than a scratch card win. Most of us cope well enough. But many of us flounder, as we do with so many things in life. We muddle through, but it is a serious bit of muddling. Others have more serious issues yet. They are almost destroyed by the season. Here’s what seems to happen to them.
The first mainstream hints that Christmas is around the corner occur about October the 31st when the first seasonally maladjusted tv advertisements air. They hear the warnings but fail to heed them, preferring to swear and scream at the flat screen tv, “It’s only Halloween!” than to heed the warnings. After a month screaming at the tv about the odds of snow falling at Dublin airport on Christmas day this year, they are distracted by the Black Friday sales. Here is a chance to get some early shopping in. However, they know that Black Friday is a con and loudly tell anyone who will listen what a rip-off it is. But no one listens, not even those on adjoining bar stools, who always seem to know-a-man-who-knows-a-man-who got a brand-new Rolex for a tenner. The real thing, the genuine article, you are assured.
The 8th of December passes (traditionally the day country people flocked to Dublin and did the Christmas shopping.) But these people are still ranting about Black Friday, only now they are alone, others have picked up on the hints and are making lists. From now on, the great muddlers are slowly transformed into zombies. Their eyes glaze over, they are hypnotized by the tragedy coming down the tracks at them. If only they could move to avoid it, but they can’t. They are doomed but fail to realize that yet.
Christmas denier dragged into the spirit of things.
The Christmas time bomb is ticking in the background, more loudly, but at the same inevitable rate. Every day an advent calendar door is opened, every morning a sweet eaten. The empty squares are a grim, visual reminder that time is running out. But the world is full to overflowing with visual reminders. The radio adds audio hints too, playing a plethora of songs that feature reindeer, but they are immune, deaf to the clamouring call to get organized. Then suddenly, their zombie cataracts are lasered off and they can see clearly. It is the 23rd or 24th and there is work to be done.
They need a space to think clearly, so retire to a pub to make the all-important shopping list. Ok, it is not so much a list of presents to buy, as it is of people they must get something for, but this is still progress.
If you identify with this behaviour, you have plenty of company. Just look around yourself on the 24th as you pop into and out of stores, as you slowly ride up and down escalators, packed with excited kids and exhausted shoppers. Check out the eyes. The kids’ swivel in their heads as though they have mainlined on sugar and promises. There are the tired eyes too, of those who have done all the major work and are doing that last chore, the Brussel sprouts run. In other words, they are secretly patting themselves on the back while gloating at those still in the middle of a shopping frenzy: you.
Imagine yourself in the zombie’s place. Your eyes are now more like those of a panicked horse than an excited child. It is difficult to focus. But at least you have a list, true it comprises of names, not things. Soap, socks, and chocolate may be the saving of you yet. Maybe not. Surprisingly, well before the shops have closed you sit once again on a bar stool, a clutch of shopping bags gathered around your ankles. Wrapping paper protrudes from one, Christmas songs play in the background, friends wish each other well and the man on the stool beside you wonders it the butcher is still open. You smile, feeling like you’ve won the lotto. Your race is run for this year. You have presents for everyone. There may be grumbling, but you have kept the receipts. The man on the seat beside you gulps down the last of his drink and disappears into the night.
We’ve all seen people like him before, fuelled by alcohol and fear, rushing from pubs into the nearest shops with a twenty-minute window to set Christmas to rights. The results can be a little disconcerting. To watch a man, on bended knees, wrapping inappropriate presents in yesterday’s newspaper, as the final moments of the 24th tick away, is sobering. As for the man who limped home in the early hours of the 25th lugging a Christmas tree in one hand and holding a (still warm) turkey in the other, he found a decorated tree in the hall and practically sobered up there and then. Not completely, but the miracle which had unfolded in his absence made him pause and think, but not hard enough to reform.
If you identify with this man, then you are already prepared for the disappointment which follows. Not only that, but you share this overwhelming feeling of helpless despair with anybody unfortunate enough to wind up sitting beside you for Christmas dinner. Like a character from Groundhog Day, you never learn, and seem destined to replay this scene next year, and the year after that, and…
A friend of mine has a theory that Christmas is sent teach children how to cope with disappointment. She may be right, she may be wrong, her insight was the inspiration for a screenplay I wrote. But how much disappointment must a child go through for the adult child to perpetuate the failure of Christmases past? How much pain are the Scrooges of this world really carrying? I think they carry enough to exempt them from having to comply with somebody else’s notion of how to celebrate the season.
Remember to bring your suntan lotion with you Scrooge. And avoid the salads.
But I shall not be running away. I’m brave enough to face it full on. Anyway, there is no rule that says Christmas must be hell on earth. Watch children play with their presents if you doubt me. And as they play, I shall dream of good food and contemplate organising a collection of black socks large enough to last a lifetime.
My Solstice cake 2022, baked to mark the handbrake turn in the heavens that brings back the light. Click image to see how it is baked.
For those of you on a spiritual quest, who live every moment, in the moment and who stumbled onto this blog attracted by the title; to you, I say, “I’m Sorry.” Sadly, this blog has nothing to do with enlightenment. It is about gardening, and a very specific subgenre of gardening at that, triage.
You are all well aware of natural, organic gardening, which makes much use of horse manure to mulch roses, and urine for the wholesale slaughter of greenfly, or some such. Maybe you have also noticed ultra-low maintenance gardening, the mainly urban-focused art of plastic lawns, sinister (or hilarious, depending on your point of view,) singing, garden gnomes along with infestations of potted plants. These bloom year-round because they too are made from oil-based polymers. However, most green-fingered practitioners, hang out somewhere between both camps. They can be found out front, or back, on bended knees, every weekend; these frontline soldiers of the never-ending war on weeds.
Triage gardening, for those who have never heard of it, is not half as glamourous as it sounds. Though the ER of this art form, there are no George Clooneys looking cool in swabs, having their foreheads wiped free from sweat in a glasshouse as they graft an underdeveloped windfall apple back onto its stem. This is a panic-based gardening, the only form I practice.
Yes, I am aware that there are gardeners out there who would be offended by my ignorance but, when it comes to all things horticultural, ignorance, sadly, defines me. There is no excuse for this. It is not as though I suffered from garden deprivation as a child, or lacked a knowledgeable, green-fingered mentor, a gardener who shared the secrets of aphid elimination with the seven-year-old barnacle who accompanied him as he worked. He also warned of the dire consequence of the, much-feared, carrot fly. But, as with the valuable advice concerning black spot, this information has long ago slipped from my memory banks.
My mother is the only one of my family who has ever shown any real interest in the floral world and was responsible for the many scattered gardening encyclopaedias which littered my childhood sitting room. Even today, in her nineties, she can regularly be seen smoking cigars as she sprays weeds which dare to pop up in her lawn. For these reasons, I always assumed that she understood what she was doing. The covid lockdown led me to reconsider.
The first dawning that she might not be made of the right gardening stuff occurred to me when my mother recently visited Germany, leaving instructions with me to water her outdoor, potted plants.
Promises were made, mothers dispatched, and potted plants immediately forgotten. The result was that after a couple of weeks, I spotted a wilt and, looking closer it seemed to me that the curtain was about to drop on the last act of some tragic, gardening opera.
Triage gardening now came in to its own. The potted plants were ambulanced to a sort of gardening emergency room, the back yard, if I’m honest. With the plants in the recovery position, up to their waists in water, I looked around the back yeard and was struck by a stray thought. Thoughts like these should never be entertained as they can lead to thinking if left unchecked. And that is exactly what happened.
Something bothered me about the large evergreen in the middle of the lawn. Wasn’t it supposed to be a miniature tree, merely decorative? It would be impossible to call this specimen miniature, unless the house suddenly hailed from Lilliput, because there was no denying it, the tree now stood a head and shoulder above the chimney stack.
Brushing aside cobwebs in the mind, I recalled my mother pacing the garden with a designer some twenty years ago. There was talk of a proposed flagstone path leading to a small sitting area a little way past the miniture tree. In theory, this was a lovely plan and for the first few years it seemed to be working beautifully.
However, my mother’s bonsai turned out to be more like Jack’s beanstalk reaching for the heavens, than an ornamental, decorative addition to the back garden. And one consequence of this tree-surprise was that the flagstone path became blocked, redundant, led nowhere. Standing beside the slowly rehydrating plants, I realised there was something missing from the picture. The path had completely disappeared, had been reclaimed by the lawn. It was seriously, jaw-droppingly absent.
Here, like a politician fessing up to a minor indiscretion from the past, I must admit that once a year I pick up a spade and use it. However, before you begin to think that I may have the seeds of a gardener, long dormant in me, ready to germinate at any second, I must quash your hopes. My annual spadework has more to do with drains than lawns, more to do with a creaking, old house, than with me becoming reacquainted with the soil.
My mother’s drains have a nasty habit of launching a surprise attack if not carefully maintained. Way back in my teens, during an ancient, drain incident, I had to unearth the architect’s drawings of the house in order to discover where the long-overgrown manhole covers might be found. Locating those which had not been tarmacadamed over (under layers of topsoil) taught me the importance of accurate drawings and manhole cover maintenance.
So, once a year, neighbours are treated to an unusual sight, me with a spade in my hand.
This year, standing in the back yard, administering care to thirsty greenery, and admiring a well-trimmed manhole cover, it occurred to me how gardening brownie points could possibly be scored with my mother. It might even compensate a little for the near dead foliage left in my care.
If the flagstone path could be found, the reasoning went, somehow unearthed, my mother might be impressed. Maybe I mused, an archaeological radar system could be sourced to help with the work. Afterall, if the police use sonic scanning equipment to unearth human remains, perhaps I could uncover the greatest gardening crime of all, neglect. But for me, there were no high-tech solutions. This mystery was to be solved the old-fashioned way, with a spade.
Perhaps, I thought, looking at the lawn, there was a path fairy I had never heard of, a fairy who steals decorative paths which lead nowhere, not even to the back of the garden. Considering the creatures who abound in Irish folklore, there could very well be. Afterall, we have the Red Man who kidnaps drunks and spends the night beating them up. Then there is the Cellar Fairy, who drinks the cellar dry when the homeowner is not paying attention (maybe the phenomenon of teenage drinking did not exist when fairies were invented.) There are also those sinister figures, who steal babies because they cannot have children of their own. But a path fairy, that might be pushing the plausibility boundaries too far, even by Irish standards.
It was a pensive writer who tested the soil around him. To those of you who have never lost a manhole cover, or a footpath, to your lawn, the recovery process, or divination system is simple. Test the ground, if the spade goes down easily, move on. When the ground fights back, you have reason to hope. But even then you must work your way around the edge of the suspected flagstone before peeling away the soil to reveal the concrete underneath. Once a stone is revealed, move on to the next search site. Slowly my mother’s path began to reveal itself as it crept its way from back of the house to the non-bonsai tree, where it disappeared completely. Digging would have had to become mining, or forestry, if the rest of the path were to be uncovered.
So, I stopped at the tree, examined the neat piles of earth beside each of the twelve flagstones and wondered where my path led to exactly. The from was obvious, the where-to, less so. Ignoring the subterranean section, the tree itself had become its destination. Seen from the house, the eyes followed the serpentine path to the tree. They then clambered over its wide base, scampered past the tree’s narrow waist, and jumped past the pointed tip towards the heavens.
Pity I sent spiritual seekers packing earlier, they might have found some solace in a path that goes nowhere and yet, somehow leaves you contemplating the sky. Maybe, there was a path fairy guiding my every step after all, for who-knows-what reason.
However, as far as I’m concerned, my efforts were wasted. The twelve flagstones I unearthed failed to impress my mother. She decided, without investigating the miracle of the restored footpath, that the work could only have been done by someone with a strimmer! So, the credit went elsewhere. There was no point in me protesting. She knows my gardening prowess well enough to believe it couldn’t have been me who powered up a strimmer, because I do not possess one. As for the triage gardening, the patients survived, but that was not enough for my mother, who decided that more, is always more and pressganged my brother-in-law into action. He spent an afternoon, cramming a dozen more pot plants alongside slightly drought-damaged companions.
Still, sometimes I look out the kitchen window at my path and wonder where on earth it is leading me.
The podcast for this blog will follow shortly, after my voice has recovered from a covid assault that leaves hoarse and crocky.
By all definitions I am sinister. What a word to be associated with, not even by choice, and without any hellish, hedonistic rewards being showered upon me by some malevolent being who is said to smile on evildoers everywhere.
This adjective, which causes heroes to sharpen their blades and polish their breast plates, is a cross I was born to carry. The word seems to perfectly match its purpose, having a marked sibilance, a snake-like hissing sound, with reptilian connotations. On hearing it, one’s mind immediately thinks Hitchcock and sends a shiver down the spine. The imagination turns black and white. It becomes cluttered with shadows and shower curtains, blades opaquely defined, strings screeching in the foreground, water swirling down a plughole. A master editor has ruled out any other possible selection of images to encapsulate the world. Our subconscious would be under pressure to generate a better 4am nightmare sequence. This is sinister perfection. Someone is going to die before our eyes, and we are loving it.
Our hearts beat faster, our breathing becomes uneven. We suppress a scream and watch a naked, vulnerable girl under a showerhead, knowing that behind the saturated white curtain stalks a predator. We are powerless to protect her and watch with a paralyzed horror as the crime unfolds. Clear water suddenly becomes clouded with blood. We shudder, wrecked from sharing the ordeal and sink back in comfortable cinema seats and recover. However, this is only a movie, evil has prevailed for now, but it will lose in the end. The sinister always lose in the end. That is how fairy tales work, especially ones from an earlier time, where the penalty for innocence was death. There were no Disney endings in the 18th and 19th centuries. As for the baddies, there was no redemption for them; these sinister forces almost always died in the end and imaginatively at that.
So, how come I’m sinister? Why does this word accompany me through life? How could a toddler, holding a teddy bear, have been deemed a threat to society? How could he be equated with the monstrous manager from the Bate’s Motel in the eyes of religious and civic dignitaries? How was he a threat to anybody; right up there with communists, intellectuals, and left leaning people everywhere? He had one hand. That’s how. He was a ciotógach, a left-handed person, born that way; without even a right hand to mask his true nature.
Like so much in the west, history informs our present prejudice. Going back to a time when we were sun worshipers, there was a marked distrust of left-handed people. Though why worshiping the sun from a right-handed angle should be any different to worshiping it from a left-handed one, is beyond me. Let’s put it down to the, as yet, unidentified Bureaucratic Gene which predisposes us to standardize everything from banana straightness, to points of view.
Populist movements, strange to say, because they disavow them so much, fall into this bureaucratic thinking camp. Afterall, they invariably talk about ‘Them.’ The ‘Them,’ who are not us. The ‘Them,’ who belong on lists, can be singled out, called names, mistrusted, and feared, because they offend the filing system of the Many.
The Romans also put left-handed people on their ‘mistrust’ lists. It is no surprise, therefore, that they gave us the word we still use to describe evil of the worst kind. And that word is Sinister, which is, simply, the Latin word for left.
In Roman regiments of yore, I can understand how left-handed soldiers could ruin symmetry in the ranks if they chose to carry spears in whatever hand suited them best. But where is the harm in it? It is not as though their deaths would be any less heroic than their right-handed comrades.
However, armies love their symmetry almost as much as a good parade. They have a pathological hatred of disorder – that lack of neatness which best defines the human condition. And what illustrates this disorder better than people killing an opponent while carrying their weapon in the incorrect hand. It, simply, is not cricket.
The Roman Catholic Church accepted many of the thinking hand-me-downs of the Roman Empire. But still, what kind of Medieval philosopher, I wonder, refused to investigate their natural prejudice by dismissing, as suspect, between two and ten percent of the population, simply because they used the incorrect hand while making the sign of the cross? In fact, many built upon the theme and saw evil where their predecessors merely saw disordered wilfulness. Maybe a Trumpian thinker was involved, an us-and-them-er, a man who sought power through derision and division; that old Tudor policy of ‘divide and conquer,’ but long before those monarchs came to power.
I wonder what was it about a left-handed copyist which drove these theologians to hate them so? Maybe their quill feathers got up their noses when they popped their heads over the wrong shoulder to check the scribes progress on some Latin text or other he was transcribing. But how did writing with the left hand put you in the Satan camp? Is it truly evil to blow your nose with your left hand? Is unblocking your nostrils with the wrong hand particularly sinful, or maybe just a tiny bit?
It’s not as though this small minority gain any advantage in their daily life from being left dominant. If anything, left-handers are at a disadvantage in very many ways, from flipping burgers in McDonald’s, to playing golf the wrong way round.
But fitting in is only a minor issue for us left-handers. From the very start of my life, this ciotógach struggled with the layout of his environment. He found the world was designed around right-handers. Many kettles, for instance, are right-handed. Right-handers will find that difficult to believe. However, to understand what I am saying you must simply peer through its window, into the very soul of the machine. This can only be done one way. Which means the kettle’s handle is always on the right-hand side. So, lefties must fill it up facing them, then swivel it around before hitting the on switch.
There are many challenges like this one, faced every day by a ciotógach, and I took them all on as a child and tamed every right-handed challenge I met along the way, sometimes easily, sometimes with tears of frustration running down my face.
It did not help that my toolkit consisted of a hammer with a wobbly head, a vice grip with a damaged grip, and a flat-head screwdriver missing half its blade. In ways this was an ideal toolkit for a child. It forced me to sit and stare at the job ahead of me. With such a limited arsenal it was best to figure out how to achieve any task before beginning it. I knew, from experience, that there was nothing worse than pulling something apart and not being able to reassemble it.
Seemingly, it is recognised that left-handers are more creative than their other-handed friends because they face a backwords world every day and conquer its challenges. If this is the case, I must be doubly creative, because not only are most things designed for right-handers, but there is also an assumption of a second hand to aid and abet its companion. My hand has no such compatriot.
For me, there never was a choice when it came to which hand I would write with. And although I had a single-minded left-to-right-hand-conversion-unit, in the form of a sadistic, right-handed teacher, there was little he could do when faced with the options I presented. Mind you, there was about the eyes a look which suggested that I was one-armed by choice and, that given time, he could extract a full confession to confirm his worst suspicions.
Despite his looks of disapproval, I wrote and not like most lefties, who curve their arms over the page and drag the pen behind the hand. I did what many do, I pushed the pen across the page. It meant not seeing what I had just written and, of course, my hand became a smudging tool for drying ink, a sort of non-absorbent blotting pad. The results were more an artistic interpretation of the spirit of writing than true calligraphy. Unfortunately, my teacher was born without an artistic soul and his rebukes were unending. But what the hell, I was writing, or so it seemed to me. It was unimportant that I was the only one who could decipher the text.
My sadist friend had another brief, outside the torture of little boys who were learning to write, one which interested the Huckleberry Finn soul in my ten-year-old body. There were vacancies on the Altar boy front. As this blessed group of students often skipped class to carry out its official duties, I was curiously attracted to the job. Free classes were a dreamed of bonus for a lad whose eyes spent more time roaming the blue skies outside than the contents of the blackboard.
Besides ringing bells, I had no idea what altar boys did, outside of escaping the occasional Irish class. Whatever it was, was ok by me. So, I tentatively enquired about these positions. However, this was when things became truly sinister. There was a right way and a wrong way to make the sign of the cross, it seemed, and mine, I was told, was the wrong way. Then it was suggested that a one-hander could never be trusted with the sacred host. What if the sanctified bread was dropped to the floor? Think of the instant damnation that would bring to my soul, not to mention the shame it would bring to my parents. I’m not sure that there was not even a suggestion that I could not be trusted with the altar wine, even in its pre-transubstantiated state. Enough said, I bore the mark of Satan and would suffer extra Irish lessons because of it. Or so it seemed to me. So, while my alter ego, Huck, and I listened to talk of the heroes of 1916, my right-handed peers were excused classes and scurried off for some spiritually enhancing free time. It occurs to me that they missed out on the great takeaway from talk of the rising, one which Huck and I readily agreed on. The heroes of 1916 would have been better served taking a crash course in military strategies, than studying how to write bad Irish poetry.
